How to Navigate Feeling Betrayed by Family Members Who Voted for Trump | letters from Dena

feeling betrayed family members voted trump

Are you feeling betrayed by family members who voted for Trump?

As an Independent, a Veteran, a gun owner who grew up on a farm in Oklahoma, I'm struggling.

And.

I keep going back to my personal philosophy that we have to name things to tame things.

Things being the root emotion or the root of the issue that we are reacting to.

In my case, I feel that my parents voted against the future and freedoms of my children. Will this prove to be true in the future? Maybe. Maybe not.

As we know, the future is always subject to change.

But. It can feel like betrayal in the here and now.

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when political viewpoints create cracks in relationships

It's challenging, and I honestly never thought I would be here emotionally. I'm pretty good at navigating things, I kind of pride myself on being able to see both logic and emotion -- and usually move through difficulties with an equal eye on both.

It can be had to do that when you feel betrayed.

Regardless of politics, navigating feelings of betrayal, especially from family, can be really tough.

When political choices create a divide, it can feel personal, even though everyone’s coming from their own perspective. So, let’s unpack this with a bit of understanding and some practical steps.

First off, recognize that your feelings are valid. Feeling betrayed is natural when people you love seem to support something that goes against your values. Allow yourself to feel those emotions without judgment. It's okay to feel hurt or disappointed.

Next, try to understand where your family is coming from. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with them, but understanding their viewpoint can help bridge the emotional gap. Sometimes, people vote based on a single issue or because of their personal experiences. Having a calm conversation about what led them to their decision can open doors to empathy.

It’s also crucial to set boundaries. If political discussions get too heated or if you feel disrespected, it’s okay to step back. Let your family know that you value the relationship and want to keep the conversation respectful. It’s alright to say something like, I understand we have different views, but I’d like to focus on what connects us rather than divides us.

Finding support outside your family can be incredibly helpful. Talk to friends who share your views or join groups where you can express your feelings without judgment. Knowing you're not alone can be a great comfort.

Remember, it's possible to love someone and disagree with them at the same time. Relationships are complex, and sometimes focusing on what you have in common, rather than your differences, can help maintain those bonds.

Lastly, give yourself time. Healing from these feelings won't happen overnight. Be patient with yourself and with your family. Over time, the sting might lessen, and you'll find a way to coexist with love and respect.

Take care,

Dena